tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post2927230880477073041..comments2023-08-19T21:08:03.957-05:00Comments on Mom vs Heroin: A New Year AwaitsAthenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-88701959002089470072008-03-25T00:20:00.000-05:002008-03-25T00:20:00.000-05:00Sarah,Thank you for your comment - and what you ar...Sarah,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your comment - and what you are communicating. I appreciate morethan I can say your unique insight, and hope that you will stay in touch... write as much as you want to, please<BR/><BR/>So far, the heroin seems to not have resurfaced with my daughter - we are getting along, and I am supporting her with her pregnancy, making sure she gets good medical care, etc... She knows that she can come home and eat right and be nurtured and go to school and prepare for being a mom. Unfortunately, The lack of heroin and the pregnancy are the only tangible changes in her lifestyle - Not that they aren't HUGE, it's just that she is still hanging out with the group, and the "boyfriend", that got her involved in it to begin with... she spent a week wit hme recently because her "boyfriend" was in jail again.<BR/><BR/>I was so disappointed to learn that she somehow raised $300 to get him out of jail while I have been scrambling to come up with the $500 she has to have paid to her OB/GYN by May. He hasn't helped her in any way with medical or living expenses.<BR/><BR/>It's just so frustrating, and I wish I knew how to get her to understand what her life will be like once the baby is born if she continues to make this man's issues her priority...<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for reading my ramblings - All we can do is our best so that we can help others do the same.<BR/><BR/>~Hugs~Athenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-43849507637356301422008-03-24T00:41:00.000-05:002008-03-24T00:41:00.000-05:00Your daughter is pregnant?Just to let you know, he...Your daughter is pregnant?<BR/><BR/>Just to let you know, heroin withdrawals are actually more dangerous to the fetus than doing the heroin itself and many women lose their children when trying to quit cold turkey while pregnant. So, hoping this doesn't happen and all, but if she winds up relapsing, you should take her to the emergency room when she says she wants to go to it, because it is very dangerous for the fetus to go through that.<BR/><BR/>Not that I expect her to wind up relapsing. From what I hear she is doing very well and you are doing a great job at helping her, I just felt that I should give you that information, just in case, you know.<BR/><BR/>But, otherwise. You are an amazing mother for doing these things. Many members of my family were nonfunctional drug addicts, including my mother, and when I was younger I went to alateen meetings for it. And when I became and adult I made the switch to alanon. It took one meeting there for me to never return. Many of the women there were parents of addicts, but most of them had made no progress in their codependency. They still hated the drug addicts and blamed them for all of their problems and thought the only way they could detach was to completely shut their children out of their lives and to not be parents to them. And I just couldn't listen to that, because it was wrong.<BR/><BR/>There is a difference between being healthy and not getting too wrapped up in it and completely disowning a child and there is a difference between being unhealthily involved in their addiction and helping out your child. And I am glad you are one of the parents who has figured out how to actually help their children in a good way, without A. making it easier for them to use drugs and just depend on you to bail them out on the time and B. getting yourself all bent out of shape.<BR/><BR/>I keep wanting to make this comment longer, because I feel like the things I am trying to say to you aren't really getting communicated as well as I'd like to, but I realize that just adding more text to an already huge comment would only make it worse if I actually am losing my meaning in there. So, pretty much: you are an awesome mother, you seem to have this thing under control, you are doing something that many people refuse to handle or try and doing it right, and good job.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06998185085104003606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-75383931036308697012008-01-11T07:21:00.000-06:002008-01-11T07:21:00.000-06:00Hi, I wanted to tell you I was very touched by th...Hi,<BR/> I wanted to tell you I was very touched by this post and while I read it, I could feel your pain because I also have a child addicted to heroin. It is a terrible road to travel and an even worse one to witness. Thanks for telling your story.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-38377032219003524102008-01-07T22:16:00.000-06:002008-01-07T22:16:00.000-06:00Erin - how did you reach a recovering point? I wis...Erin - how did you reach a recovering point? I wish I knew a magic word or action that would make her WANT to recover enough to actually try...<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your comment. Hug your supporters.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Athenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-9600683469997884332007-12-29T09:17:00.000-06:002007-12-29T09:17:00.000-06:00I am so sorry. In my family I am the addict...reco...I am so sorry. In my family I am the addict...recovering now, but active at one point.<BR/><BR/>I just feel so horrible when I think now about all I did to keep getting high.<BR/><BR/>One day your daughter will too.erinsavhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808493902626395342noreply@blogger.com