tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.comments2023-08-19T21:08:03.957-05:00Mom vs HeroinAthenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comBlogger823125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-84543373353117327202018-01-23T03:44:29.970-06:002018-01-23T03:44:29.970-06:00I’m so sorry that you are going through this, Tina...I’m so sorry that you are going through this, Tina. I strongly recommend that you be prepared to contact CPS if necessary. They should work with your daughter to enable her to get treatment and raise her baby. You may be asked to do family placement; but there are no guarantees in the long run. It is heart wrenching to see your daughter struggling, but the focus right now must be the baby. Is adoption an option? ~HugsAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-73713444082550073662018-01-20T01:20:19.750-06:002018-01-20T01:20:19.750-06:00I am looking for any support or guidance I can fin...I am looking for any support or guidance I can find. My daughter is 27 and has been killing me for 2 years.. I had been helping but after reading stories from everyone else learned I was doing everything wrong.. So I let go didn't hear from her for weeks until she was arrested again and called to say she was pregnant. I didn't believe her of course thought just another con to get me to bail her out. Well I didn't bail her out but after she got out and took her to hospital. I got the shock of my life when I laid eyes on my first grand baby inside this monster who used to be my baby that I have had since I was 17. She has hep C and it is pretty advanced. I got her an apartment a job once again fell into the trap.. She got evicted from the apartment after not even being there a month cause of screaming and fighting with her 40 year old boyfriend who has 3 grown kids he never cared for. Didn't hear from her for months.. Get another call a few weeks ago that he has dreopped her on a street corner... I pick her up find her a home for pregnant mother homeless mothers. Got her back to the Dr who she hadn't seen since September and this is January 20 she is due on 2/11... Find out this morning she has now been kicked out of the homeless shelter because she had curfew and and was 3 hours late. Now my first grandbaby is due anytime she is homeless and I don't see the hospital letting the baby go home with her My 70 year mother is so distraught over it and what I;m going through she wants to take the baby so the state won't.. I am with the love of my life and will lose him if I take the baby and everything in me says do what I got to do but this is my grandbaby... but am I going to raise her baby while she goes out and kills herself Do I give up my life and raise him... I am pushing 50 only work part time now. How could I even consider not doing that because that is my flesh and blood my first grandbaby from my first born. Oh MY GOD what I if do raise him and he grows up to break whats left of my heart by doing the same thing his mother is doing.. I can't be responsible for that.. OMG what if I don't and he ends up with someone who abuses him for hurts him... I even planned her a baby shower which is sunday and I don't even know if she going to have a baby that she is going to leave the hospital with the baby she gives birth to.. Will it be addicted she says no.. But if she told me he grass was green oustside I would have to go check where is she going to take him... She will definitely OD if someone takes that baby... If she realy wanted the baby she would make better decisions... Every time I get a little money saved either her or her brother who is 14 mos younger than her He is now 60 days sobeer and in a half way house doing better than I ever thought he would... Anyway it is 2:12 am where I am and just like every night Im wide awake worring.. Why can't I shake this.. I need professional help. I don't what to or say all these fears and questions just keep going round and round my head... Someone please help me. I feel like I am ready to die I can't keep living this way and I pray God to take me home because if this is going to be the rest of my life, I DON"T WANT IT... <br />aAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03316784530312706395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-66366530424092168272017-12-23T18:13:28.300-06:002017-12-23T18:13:28.300-06:00My goodness, it has been a long time, and I have j...My goodness, it has been a long time, and I have just seen new comments such as this one! I will try to post an update soon. Long story short, my daughter has not used heroin in 2-3 years, which is amazing. The collateral damage continues, Alas. Our grandson Landon is doing great... unfortunately we do not see our grand-daughter Kaylee much, because at 4 months my daughter was in jail and signed shared custody to the “others” - and since my daughter is no longer with the kids father, they also don’t let her see her daughter. In fact, recently, they filed a petition to terminate her rights. Sigh. She has answered the petition. She had legal troubles last year and deferred time to serve. She began her sentence on December 7, 2017. She’s been working steadily and has matured quite a bit. Alas, there was involvement with other drugs which led to her current situation. But - she is alive, her children are healthy. It’s a shame that the “others” are so adversarial, and “best interest” of the child is not a concern of theirs, but rather one upmanship, as far as we can tell any way. My daughter does understand now that we were “fighting” as much to protect her rights to her son as we were to keep him safe. The bio dad lives with them and has struggled as much as our daughter with recovery and the law, He’s angry that she broke up with him. Life goes on. ~HugsAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-47060119387002530512017-12-23T17:18:58.639-06:002017-12-23T17:18:58.639-06:00I just saw your comment! I hope all is going well ...I just saw your comment! I hope all is going well for you and yours, Rebecca. My daughter is back in jail, but on an old charge. She has gotten off heroin - at least the last 3 years. Keep your chin up. ~HugsAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-51843201093971977282017-08-30T02:07:02.537-05:002017-08-30T02:07:02.537-05:00Hi Athena,
I came across your blog and read ever...Hi Athena, <br /><br />I came across your blog and read every word with tears streaming down my face. I couldn't stop. My 19 year old daughter is in jail currently. (thankfully) But, she will be released in a few weeks. She is teetering on the verge of rehab but her P.O.S. junkie boyfriend keeps assuring her that it won't do any good. <br /><br />Our family has had to be involved in a custody battle over a tiny, beautiful baby boy as well. That part of your story tore my heart apart for you. My brother had to fight for two years for custody of his son. This past January my nephew was four when he passed away in a tragic car accident. You are doing the right thing keeping him safe. When my nephew passed, my daughter fell into the needle hard and that is why she is currently in jail. (Again, thankfully she is there and not out with her boyfriend)<br /><br />I hope you don't mind but I copied your blog and sent it to her. It was with a heartfelt, tear stained, letter asking her to seek help upon release. <br /><br />For selfish reasons I pray your story helps her. But please know that it has already helped me. This Mama needs to stick with the tough love and continued encouragement for her to get help and be healthy and happy. I love you for being courageous enough, and well written enough, to share this journey and touch a very raw part of my life. <br /><br />I'll be standing by and keeping faith that one day you can write and say that your baby girl is getting help and doing better.<br /> <br />Thank You is not enough. <br /><br />~RebeccaRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16018424331318787054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-45381112497880451972017-08-30T02:06:31.994-05:002017-08-30T02:06:31.994-05:00Hi Athena,
I came across your blog and read ever...Hi Athena, <br /><br />I came across your blog and read every word with tears streaming down my face. I couldn't stop. My 19 year old daughter is in jail currently. (thankfully) But, she will be released in a few weeks. She is teetering on the verge of rehab but her P.O.S. junkie boyfriend keeps assuring her that it won't do any good. <br /><br />Our family has had to be involved in a custody battle over a tiny, beautiful baby boy as well. That part of your story tore my heart apart for you. My brother had to fight for two years for custody of his son. This past January my nephew was four when he passed away in a tragic car accident. You are doing the right thing keeping him safe. When my nephew passed, my daughter fell into the needle hard and that is why she is currently in jail. (Again, thankfully she is there and not out with her boyfriend)<br /><br />I hope you don't mind but I copied your blog and sent it to her. It was with a heartfelt, tear stained, letter asking her to seek help upon release. <br /><br />For selfish reasons, I hope your story helps her. Please know that it has already helped me. This Mama needs to stick with the tough love and continued encouragement for her to get help and be healthy and happy. I love you for being courageous enough, and well written enough, to share this journey and touch a very raw part of my life. <br /><br />I'll be standing by and keeping faith that one day you can write and say that your baby girl is getting help and doing better.<br /> <br />Thank You is not enough. <br /><br />~Rebecca<br /><br />Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16018424331318787054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-23461958841631081642017-05-30T06:35:42.504-05:002017-05-30T06:35:42.504-05:00Thanks for sharing good information.Being charged ...Thanks for sharing good information.Being charged with a drug offence can mean a lot of things: using, manufacturing, possession, supply. And imprisonment!. I have a friend that was caught in possession of drugs. I think it was hard for him to admit to his family that he had a problem. He eventually got everything taken care of though<br /><a href="https://www.slorecoverycenters.com/blog/substance-abuse/how-long-does-xanax-stay-in-system/" rel="nofollow"> how long does xanax stay in your urine </a> ?SLO Recovery Centershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11843366232840487079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-66446160728172927562017-02-25T07:54:34.769-06:002017-02-25T07:54:34.769-06:00Hi Athena, it's been a long time and I was jus...Hi Athena, it's been a long time and I was just wondering how your daughter is doing. How are her children? Hope all is well with you! Stay strong and positive. You're a wonderful mother :)Susienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-46218762895664307692017-01-16T19:29:31.202-06:002017-01-16T19:29:31.202-06:00Does anyone know the stats for getting off heroin ...Does anyone know the stats for getting off heroin and being recovered? I know its not easy and people have to work their recovery. Its such an awful drug and makes me so sad to know how it affects our loved ones,sadly even death. I appreciate your post and all the people who have commented.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-31992901736422826782016-12-06T16:52:31.695-06:002016-12-06T16:52:31.695-06:00Sad to say that you posted this on the day the son...Sad to say that you posted this on the day the son of a friend of mine, died of a heroin overdose. This was one of a rash of deaths in our town, or that affected our community, in the past couple of years. My daughter's boyfriend also died of an overdose in June, 2014. In between, there were at least two other deaths of young people - high school and college age - in this tiny community. <br />Nebula1400https://www.blogger.com/profile/17065404471060179828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-86705066082861908912016-11-15T23:19:31.066-06:002016-11-15T23:19:31.066-06:00Hey Athena I an just wondering how your daughters ...Hey Athena I an just wondering how your daughters doing...it's been 2 years since your last post. I hope everything's ok with you and your family :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00643484613991633123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-60955841030867531572016-06-29T16:15:37.283-05:002016-06-29T16:15:37.283-05:00There was a friend of mine who was a drug addict, ...There was a friend of mine who was a drug addict, we tried a lot of ways to help him and when we were about to give up any hope we found <a href="http://theholisticsanctuary.reviews/" rel="nofollow">The Holistic Sanctuary</a>. I am very thankful for their professionalism and the results which we accomplished together. Now everything's better than ever and it looks like my friend has a bright future ahead of him.SEO BLOGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426074989007135576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-34667744937101911962016-04-17T13:44:00.450-05:002016-04-17T13:44:00.450-05:00I know this blog has been going on for years and r...I know this blog has been going on for years and reading it shows me the pain I feel as many of you all do. My daughter is 30 and after her divorce she just gave up everything including her beautiful son. She was smart beautiful funny and a military wife. She started using, just 6 months ago, as lost so much weight, won't talk to us, mixed up with a bad biker gang and delivers for them. She has lied and stolen and refuses to admit things and goes to a safe house in another state to make it and then deliver to another state. She looks terrible and I try to find out info where I can. I found out where she is and want to so badly go and talk with her but she seems to be with some older man that won't let no one near her. She looks sad, no life and of all my daughters I never expected this. The pain I feel is so deep and all I do is cry, pray and don't understand. My ex won't accept responsibility and places the blame on me as he parties with his biker buddies and all I do is reach out to our Lord. Do I go to find her? Or do I let God? I here the Feds are watching what do I do? So scared and lost. My email is blueskies761@gmail.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02739262942430148286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-26419501244231655692015-11-28T15:38:14.587-06:002015-11-28T15:38:14.587-06:00William, I am so sorry. I know you are feeling ove...William, I am so sorry. I know you are feeling overwhelmed and helpless. One thing that I hope you are able to gather your strength for is your grand daughter - how old is she? She needs to be protected from the effects that heroin wreaks on innocent family members. ~HugsAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-32685131934202154032015-11-28T08:55:42.344-06:002015-11-28T08:55:42.344-06:00I have a 24 year old daughter addicted to heroin. ...I have a 24 year old daughter addicted to heroin. As I sit here writing this comment. She is driving here with my granddaughter. Her husband called me last night in desperation. He told me thing are really bad right now. But I am at a loss on what to do, or how to handle this. If I confront her, she just lies. No matter what I say she lies. She could have track marks all over her arms, and she will give me some bullshit story about them. Like the last one. She told me shes being treated for her hep C, and all those marks are from the doctor. I feel helpless. I am completely lost. I am so tired of the chaos that happens when she shows up. I really feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel.Williamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-75655181292308895632015-10-09T17:43:59.746-05:002015-10-09T17:43:59.746-05:00What's amazing to me is that most people don&#...What's amazing to me is that most people don't care at all about heroin addicted kids. They even think the person is getting what they deserve. Then someone they love is found to be an addict and things change. They run around in panic trying to make sense of their demise and trying to get a quick cure. As we all know, it doesn't work that way. There is little a parent can do if the addict is determined to live that life. Personal guilt just brings us more misery. Certainly we can self-evaluate and make positive chances if we find our actions were not healthy in the past but living in the past won't help anyone especially the addict.Crying, threatening, bribing, punishing, shaming will not do it either. The addict lies, cheats, steals even though they know you know. We can't give up but we accept a new reality and try to find joy in smaller aspects of life. Understand that there's no cure for the parent of the addict but life can be meaningful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-81530315718782475032015-10-09T17:28:25.870-05:002015-10-09T17:28:25.870-05:00A parent's agony over a heroin-addicted child ...A parent's agony over a heroin-addicted child is a slow,continuous draining of life. Our daughter started at 17 and is now 27. Nothing has changed, really, only the names of her "friends" and the locations where she rests her head. No rehab, person, or punishment can move an addict to change; they must want it so badly that they're willing to do anything to recover. It's the same drive that it takes to commit to heroin in the first place. In the meantime, the parents life-source drains with a pain like no other. We see them as "walking dead" toward a sad end. There is no solution other than loving without enabling; praying with hope rather than despair; and accepting that even though our dreams have died with this evil drug, we still can celebrate small victories if we look for them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-29224112608447671232015-06-06T11:25:19.182-05:002015-06-06T11:25:19.182-05:00I really want to read all of your post, but it may...I really want to read all of your post, but it may take me a moment. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing your story with everyone. You never know who will read this and how it will impact their lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-47930283172673682642015-01-05T13:49:59.786-06:002015-01-05T13:49:59.786-06:00Wow, Athena.. You truly are a strong woman to go t...Wow, Athena.. You truly are a strong woman to go through this and still so lovingly talk about your daughter. I'll be saying a prayer for you and your family. I'm hoping that your daughter is doing well now and getting a chance to be as good a mother to her children as you are to her. Your grandchildren are so precious and extremely adorable!<br /><br />btw, I work with a drug addiction hotline at 24houraddictionhelp.org and we can also help with aftercare or relapse prevention if this does happen again. God willing it doesn't though. Stay strong, mamabear!<br />Juliethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06705168564156473077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-75756756098004636092014-10-17T02:52:19.676-05:002014-10-17T02:52:19.676-05:00Hi Athena,
I also just found your blog. I really ...Hi Athena,<br /><br />I also just found your blog. I really enjoy your writing and your updates on your daughter and grandchildren. I want to commend you. You're a very strong woman and I pray for continued strength as you watch over your family and help your daughter with sobriety. One step at a time, one day at a time! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06336119166392110825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-42099468960250614312014-10-10T00:47:29.422-05:002014-10-10T00:47:29.422-05:00Athena,
I have been looking into the Delancey Stre...Athena,<br />I have been looking into the Delancey Street Foundation in SF. They have them in NY, NC, NM and Los Angeles. I have not heard any feedback on the blogs about it but I have done some research and also visited the one in SF and it is AMAZING! It is a two year commitment and the addict has to be ready to go. They also have taken court ordered addicts as well. I hope this helps and prayers continue for you and your family. ReneeThe neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-36378572592629191912014-08-31T06:28:36.150-05:002014-08-31T06:28:36.150-05:00Hello i to have a heroin addict daughter. And was ...Hello i to have a heroin addict daughter. And was shocked , i feel like iam in a movie. So hard. She is such a beautiful woman . We really never saw eye to eye and she never follow my rules. And i told her , that her brother and i could not go through this anymore. she left and was living bed to bed.I was so scared for she would not call me for days. In an out of detox and rehap. I told her i cannot watch her killing herself . so now she in FL treatment center. she lasted one week. Sick to my stomach not knowing where she is. So far away. and everytime the phones rings i get so sick ......I pray to God to help her to help herself and fight the fight .... <br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09731787992029492413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-20023455912021878612014-08-31T06:12:17.573-05:002014-08-31T06:12:17.573-05:00My Daughter is also a heroin addict, i to have bee...My Daughter is also a heroin addict, i to have been through so much with her, I'm finally trying to stop to enable. She came home and said she was tired of the life she was living. So she wanted to go to detox and a program,. She went to a place in flordia which i loved for i wanted her away from her so call friends . And hopefully start a new life.. sounded like she was happy and doing so good..one week later she left,right now i do not know where she is ,she has no id on her. so Iam worried sick again. <br />and i know there is nothing i can do she has to do it on her own. <br />That still can't take away the pain and helpless we all feel. I pray to God to help her find her way....My heart goes out to all that are going to this also.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09731787992029492413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-35409603094358151162014-08-19T19:09:17.135-05:002014-08-19T19:09:17.135-05:00Thank you for the kind words, Robin - I needed tha...Thank you for the kind words, Robin - I needed that! Good luck on your journey with your daughter ~ HugsAthenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824831201121143893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127114463030844612.post-84746287514982072302014-08-19T18:56:27.962-05:002014-08-19T18:56:27.962-05:00Athena,
Just found your blog; you are an inspirat...Athena,<br /><br />Just found your blog; you are an inspiration to so many.<br /><br />I have a beautiful 21 yr old heroine addict and can relate to everyone's blog.<br /><br />On a positive note, good luck with the job hunting! <br />Your honesty in your story speaks volumes to the person you are.<br /><br />Best of luck.Robinnoreply@blogger.com