Tuesday, May 20, 2008

As we head into summer...

As I head into the summer, I am optimistic about many things, and of course concerned about a lot of things... Daughter's pregnancy is advancing and she seems to be doing well, although as far as I know she hasn't had another OB/GYN appointment, which is a concern. To recap, shortly after she was bonded out of jail by "boyfriend's" parent on heroin possession charge I contacted her OB/GYN to inform them of her heroin use during pregnancy... I still think it was the right thing to do, in light of things that she had told me - but, no suprise, it angered her A LOT, and I haven't seen her since... I have been in contact with her though, and I am glad for that.

She and her "boyfriend" are living with her father - Around Mother's day I printed off some family photos of her and her family over the years - and used them as stationary to let her know how much we (her family) have always loved her & still do - and to let her know that I miss her and am happy to hear from her father that she is doing well. I made a point of not dwelling on heroin, et al... just reminding her that I am here for her if she needs me. She responded with a very nice phone call, and since then we have talked several times. I have sent her books (She loves to read - I resisted the urge to send her self-help books - I ordered her books by Stephanie Myers, her new favorite author who has a trilogy "The Twilight Saga" that is very popular ... about vampires, I think. She's always liked Stephen King, VC Andrews, Dean Koontz, etc. I did slip in "Heading Home with Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality" LOL. She called to thank me when she got the books... unfortunately, the Meyers book was the Spanish version, which was pretty funny. Yesterday I mailed her a return label so that she could send it back to Amazon, and I included some maternity clothes for her.

Her dad thinks they are staying clean, and when I talk to her she sounds good, so I am going with that for now - The baby is due in July, and I don't want to be estranged. Her father and I have just about talked her into returning to her OB/GYN here... They drug tested her on her last appointment in April, and she told me that it was "clean" ... if true, there is no reason for her to avoid the Doctor, who she really liked.


She still has a looming court date for her heroin possession charge - I don't know when that will be, or what the outcome will be - It's concerning to me that she hasn't really done anything that a judge could look at and think "I see she is taking responsibility for her actions" ... I really don't know what to expect, but so far have been amazed at the revolving door that "jail" has been for her and the "boyfriend" over this past year.

So - Hope springs eternal, but with a health dose of realism, at least on my part ;-)

7 comments:

kel said...

Optimisim is a GOOD thing. I am glad you are at least on speaking terms with your daughter, and hope she will stay clean, and embrace motherhood and all the joy (??? LOL ) that comes with it and her legal problems will work themselves out.

Hugs and prayers being sent your way...

pat said...

Take care of yourself. I am thinking of you.

My Daughter's Addiction said...

Been thinking about you. You were absolutely right to tell her Doctor about her drug use. She knows that you love her and would do anything to protect her...maybe she's beginning to think like that toward her own child.

Fractalmom said...

good going!! our court system, unfortunately for reality, but fortunately for the addicted persons themselves, are overburdened and too busy. don't be surprised if the most that happens with her charges is she gets unsupervised probation. the courts are not really interested in putting junkies in jail, they have to take care of them when they do,and it is expensive. usually, they just let them go. unless she had enough heroin on her to be a dealer? then, she may actually get time in jail.

weird world we live in.

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

Bug hugs. I'm keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts. Hope that all goes well with the rest of her pregnancy.

Fractalmom said...

I have used one of my blogs to start to chronicle my daughter's addiction and the impact it has had on the family, as well as what I have learned through my journey. if you want to read it, it is at

http://fractalmom.blogspot.com/

Rachel said...

Sounds like 6 weeks or so until the baby. Yeah! Just be ready for anything.