With regards to last post, up until about 9:30 this morning, I was still under the assumption that things are good - better even than the last time I posted. I had helped my daughter find another ob/gyn because the atmosphere at the office of the one she had been seeing just wasn't good - She had her first appointment with new Dr yesterday and was so excited - a direct quote from my daughter: "I love, love, love her!!!" The office was friendly and nurturing, and treated her with respect. She was particularly touched that they gave her a diaper bag filled with samples and pamphlets and etc... And that's what prenatal visits should be, what I remember them being: Something to look forward to, a nurturing environment.
My daughter even called me at about 11pm to thank me once again for all of my help and emotional support. She sounded good. Happy.
Well. The call this morning was to inform me that my daughter is in jail. Details are sketchy... Apparently both she and her "boyfriend" (see earlier posts) were arrested. When bondsman office called, I learned that my daughter is being held on a "possession of a controlled substance" in the county jail in the small E. Texas town she is living in. Heroin.
In addition to that charge, there seems to be a $500 ticket or something out of Dallas County that both she and her "boyfriend" are being held for. But only she has this "possession" charge - a state felony. (Insert expletive of choice here - several, actually)
As I've said, details are sketchy. I know that she spoke to a friend who was expecting her to come over at about 11:30 last night and she was on her way... and then no one heard anything else, no "where are you?" phone calls were returned. Apparently both she and "boyfriend" were in the car - I am envisioning a traffic stop. I really do think my daughter hasn't been using, but apparently she was holding - and that REALLY pisses me off. 5 months pregnant and taking care of her heroin addict boyfriend (see previous blog post) - It's been less than a month that she managed to raise money to get him out of jail, on bond...
I have an active imagination, in lieu of facts: A glance in the rearview mirror - police lights - a flurry of activity while "boyfriend" hands heroin to her because - whatever. The police do a check and find outstanding warrants out of Dallas - on BOTH of them (hers should have been cleared, so either she's mistakenly still in system or, ha-ha, I am ill-informed.)
It doesn't really matter, though. She may still be using for all I really know... at the very LEAST, she knows that her "boyfriend" is still using, and that's who she chooses to be with, who she is excited to be having a baby with, who has already lost children due to heroin.
SHE was charged with possession because she had the heroin - not him. (expletive, expletive, expletive.) She has made extremely poor choices, repeatedly, and they are most definitely her choices.
So - according to bondsman, I can pay $1500 to get her released on bond - If I don't she will likely be there in the _____ County Jail for at least 3 months (8 months pregnant) - at which time there may be a reduction in her bond. IF I were to co-sign to have her released from the County Jail, she will be then transferred to Dallas County Jail on her outstanding Dallas warrant. Dallas County Jail is a very bad place. The small county jail she's in now, not so bad - Three meals a day, and no Heroin. I'm not bonding her out (I couldn't if I wanted too) - I think where she is right now is a safer environment for her and her unborn child than where she was in the moments leading up to her being put in jail.
One day at a time.