Sunday, March 21, 2010

Update

I apologize it's been so long since I updated...

Mom and babe are healthy... As predicted, I was only notified that my daughter had delivered the baby because she hemorrhaged and was taken back into surgery several hours after the birth - Thankfully, some who conspired to keep me in the dark understood that I deserved to know when my daughter's life was in the balance.  I don't think I need to explain the awfulness of the hour and 1/2 drive to the hospital praying that my daughter .... well ...

So - Thankfully, the following day she was out of ICU... I was focused on her and the baby and thankful.

On the 2nd day, after I went to the hospital again at my daughter's request, "boyfriend" - nice to my face - later threw a fit about me being there.  In the evening when several family members were there, a nurse came in and said the baby needed to go back to the nursery for tests, and suggested family members step out of the room while she talked to my daughter and "boyfriend"...

We went downstairs, and about 15 minutes later "boyfriend" called me on my cell, yelling that I was not welcome to come back, that my daughter did not want me there, etc etc... Apparently CPS was called, and naturally, it was all MY fault.

Long story short... all were tested. When results came back, all tested clean. My daughter is talking to me on the phone, and I saw the baby on Thursday when we met with the other grandparents to exchange Landon for his visitation with them this week.

Unfortunately, this time and the time before, Landon did not want to go...
I don't know if it's the attention paid to new little sister Kaylee, or just the normal  behavior of a 20 month old who is frustrated by the lack of continuity and the frequent back and forth... It is very hard on us all, but hardest of all on Landon.

I pray that my daughter continues to bond with her daughter and will always put her children's needs first.  Thank you all for your continued prayers and for "being there..."

19 comments:

kristi said...

Congrats and I know he will grow to love his new baby sis.

Midnitefyrfly said...

In spite of a difficult situation all around there is some light in that beautiful baby girl's existence and that all 3 tested clean.

One day at a time. I can only imagine the emotions Landon has and the effect it all has on you. ((((HUGS))) for you!

Annette said...

I am praying honey...love the picture. :o)

Syd said...

It sounds like a stressful time at the hospital. I hope that the baby is well and will be much loved.

Barbara said...

She is an adorable little thing and I bet Landon will be a wonderful big brother.

I am sorry you have to endure all this drama. I hope this new little life has a big impact on your daughter.

I feel bad for Landon going back and forth and how that must make you feel to see him struggle. Its good that he is loved so much by both sets of grandparents that they each want to see him, but its got to be tough on all of you.

Fractalmom said...

{{{{{hugs to you both}}}}}

Lou said...

It sounds like the children and healthy and being cared for, and the parents are not doing any damage to themselves or others for the moment.

It's not much, but I would grab onto that and hold tight.

Athena said...

Holding Tight :-)

Bristolvol said...

I am so glad that you get to enjoy the grandchildren. I pray that everything will work out for the best.

LisaC said...

It is a blessing that all tested clean; and that God makes children so resilient. Landon will grow to love his little sister; and he is lucky to have loving grandparents.

Hugs and prayers to you for this beautiful new grandbaby in your life.

pat said...

Take care.

Anonymous said...

You are still in my thoughts at prayers. I check daily for a new update.

Cheri said...

Athena,

You are in our prayers!

Hang in there,
Cheri

Kathy M. said...

How very hard. I will keep you all in my prayers. Please take care of yourself. Hugs to you.

Her Big Sad said...

Just stopping by to say I hope you and your family are doing well! Hope you've had further opportunity to love on that new little granddaughter and that Landon is adjusting well. Prayers continue, for ALL concerned!! (Hugs)

A Mom' Serious Blunder said...

Happy Mother's Day

A Mom' Serious Blunder said...

Happy Mother's Day! I am really hoping no news is good news.

BMelonsLemonade said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. This should be a time of joy, and it is riddled with doubt. I am a former heroin addict myself, and I am so thankful I did not have children while still involved with drugs. I am a mother now, and it has changed me beyond belief. Recovery is a long and harrowing process, but the light at the other end of the tunnel is so much brighter. You may enjoy my blog...it looks at addiction from a recovered mother's standpoint.

BMelonsLemonade said...

I was inspired to write about my own mother after reading your blog. The piece is called "Mothers." I hope you check it out. I think it may help you. You remind me of my own mother, and after my many years of addiction...I am clean, and my mother and I are very close.