Truth is, I wanted to say I thought she was doing well - I have seen her a few times, briefly, when she has ridden along with the other grandparents when it was time to exchange Landon for his visits. She looked good - I've seen more of Kaylee because my other daughter was babysitting her while A went to work. To Work! She was working - I was excited about that. So, when I have seen her she's looked - well, like a tired mom. But what I have worried about is I haven't seen or heard much of anything about "the boyfriend" - and I still believe anyone who chooses his life chooses trouble. I would really like to be wrong about that.
Anyway - short of it is they are both in jail as of last Wednesday. Caught shoplifting is what my daughter told me when she finally called me because... well, because that's the only time I really hear from her.. and since no one got her out before she finally called me. I will never get over how hard it is to take those calls. Anyway, she told me she hadn't talked to anyone. She was deperate to get out "cause I have to go to work" - I got off the phone, took a breath... then...
I went to the county website and did an inmate search, found her... then I found him. His charge? ABANDON ENDANGER CHILD CRIMINAL NEGLIGENCE - among other things. She called back shortly and I asked her to tell me what happened. She made it sound like no big deal - "Boyfriend" took off running from the police holding 5 month old Kaylee. She said his brother had the baby at the time she called..
What would you have done? I called CPS. I'm finding out 2-3 days after the fact, and just the day before we had handed Landon over for his weekend with the other grandparents. It didn't add up to anything re-assuring, that's for sure. I found out soon enough that the other grandparents knew, and said nothing. My oldest daughter even - she knew, and said nothing. A lot of people knew. Just not me or Norm.
We met the other grandmother yesterday, to pick Landon up. The first thing she said was "Did you call CPS?" I told her we did. What I should have said is "Yes, didn't you???" She said she'd wished we'd given them her work number, they'd called her cell and left a message. (?) ... She hadn't spoken with them yet, only had a voicemail, and was pretty dismissive of the siuation: "They just weren't thinking..."
At the same time I was in parking lot talking to her, someone texted me that the grandparents were planning on going to the jail to get a signature from Amanda so they could "enroll Kaylee in daycare."
Anyway - it was the 6th when we found out and called CPS. We haven't heard anything...
Apparently case was closed after CPS was called when Kaylee was born in February, and no one was monitoring my daughter, "boyfriend," or their baby Kaylee. I have cried all I can cry, written all I can write to investigators in past CPS cases. In case any of them read this blog:
"I want to know the children are safe. Please drug test them. If Kaylee is placed I would like to have visits with her, I would like to see her and her brother spending time together. The parents have not fulfilled the plan CPS drew up over 2 years ago when Landon was born. I understand they tested clean when Kaylee was born (the had spent 5 months in jail.) I wanted it to work, too. My daughter's "Boyfriend" has had 4-5 other children removed from him before he met my daughter. THEY WERE IN A WALMART, IN DALLAS, STEALING, WITH A 5 MONTH OLD. On a day when the weather was 104 degrees. I understand my daughter and her "boyfriend" did not list me as a contact to come get Kaylee, even though I was minutes away. Please just remember why: I would have called CPS. (There is no one else to call in this case.) I also would have gone and picked her up, and kept her safe for as long as we were asked to. The other grandparents probably won't explain that there are 2 sets of loving grandparents - because last time there was a safety plan, my husband and I took it serious. Landon is safe. Please protect Kaylee."
I believe my daughter has bonded to and loves Kaylee. I know Kaylee is very likely trying to understand where her Mom is - and her Aunt who has been babysitting even. This whole situation is heartbreaking. I wish I could hug her and keep her safe and tell her it will all be ok. I wish I could hug my daughter, too.
July 2010 at the "half way point"
and Heeeree's Landon - 2 years old on 7/24/2010: