Well, Husband and I went shopping for Valentine's day cards and candy for the kids and grandkids - the only one I had trouble finding a card for was my addicted daughter, who is now in jail...
We joked about the need for greeting cards for inmates - and of course later when I googled it, there it is - www.threesquaresgreetings.com... this picture is from one, under the "tough love" category. There was another that I related to:
No More Promises -
"Outside Message: No More Promises...
Inside Message: When you called recently, I wasn’t very sympathetic. I guess I’ve heard your promises to change too many times. Please - stop promising to change and just do it."
I guess there is a whole sub-culture surrounding inmates and prisons - who knew? My daughter's recent letters are starting to really get to me - I put $50 on "her books" (there is also a set of 6 greeting cards for "I put money on your books") 2 1/2 weeks ago - last week she wrote and sent me copy of her comissary receipt and a blank order form so I'd know what she spent money on and what things cost. First thing I notice? Her prev balance was $60... so, someone else is putting money on her books??
I hate being ignorant, but I don't apologize for not having a clear understanding of what it's like in jail... I hate even more being taken advantage of, and I feel that she is still manipulating me - still scamming me for money... Every other paragraph was how she needed money on her books, "please send $75- $80 every two weeks and any extra" - Wait... What? (Borrowed from fellow blogger)
SHE is supposed to send me $150 a month for child support... you know?
She also asked me to send her song lyrics - Eminem "Criminal", 50 Cent, and some country love songs... - She ALSO mentioned that "boyfriend's mom" is helping her get letters to him - in the same county jail... So, how do I know some of that money isn't getting on his books somehow? She told me in her first letter she shaved her head - "A buzz cut with a mohawk" - but now she says she needs to buy conditioner every two weeks... she says she needs money on her books because a Dr is giving her anti-anxiety medicine.. she wants to buy underweare and a bra that fits ($4 each) - yet the receipt she sent shows $60 spent on primarily honey buns, coffee, cheetos...
I sent a valentine's day card to her from the baby - I also sent another $50 MO... and a strongly worded letter explaining what my concerns are, that she needs to budget just like I do, and reiterating that I would love to have a thought exchange of where she wants to go with her life, what her positive plans are for when she gets out, etc... But as it stands, it looks like same old stuff - she's glorifying the life she has led for 2 years, and I don't see anything that even remotely comes close to enlightenment or a desire to change.
I am Mad/Sad/... frustrated. For 2 years I have given her the advice she needed not to end up here... She had it all available, but she didn't want to be "confined" by my rules. THIS isn't my fault -