Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Baby Steps

Baby is walking ! :-)

I have still not had a call or letter from his mom, my daughter, since she got out of Jail in May...

I saw her ONCE - when we went to meet the "boyfriend's" parents to exchange Baby for their visit - 3 weeks after she was released from jail... She was with them! It made me physically ill to see her, with them - she did not look healthy. I really had nothing to say to her - especially not in front of them... For days I felt so insulted, and viewed it as calculating on all of their parts to hurt me - but I have come to believe that the truth is, in this case, they simply do not think about me or my husband, or really anyone but their Big Addicted Baby.

The other Grandfather made a very suprising gesture last week - He had 5 cans of baby formula that *we* pay $25 a can for... asked if we could use them. NEVER have they offered to help with diapers, formula, etc... We said "Sure" and "Thank you!" and asked how he came about this windfall. The answer? "Well, we get it through medicaid, and it's about to expire - He's almost a year old now"

SO TYPICAL. How thoughtful of them. I forgot they lied from day one and said he lived with them. Nice.

Alas - Life goes on.

I found this recently - Heroin Alert - Erin's Story

Did I mention that I HATE HEROIN?

10 comments:

Gin said...

You are going to have your hands full with him now, that's for sure! I am sorry about everything that is going on with your daughter. I hope that one day she comes to her senses.

pat said...

Heroin affects everyone in the family not just the person addicted to it. I really cannot understand how this set of grandparents could go all this time and provide nothing for this child. It certainly would never be me. I glad you gave an update. I think of you often.

Syd said...

I think that you are going to be a major influence in his life. Thank goodness for that.

Laura said...

Yes, I agree with the others. Thank God Landon has you and your husband. How fun that he's walking!

I hope you are finding comfort in God's care over you.

kristi said...

Damn..isn't formula crazy expensive? I never got any help with either of my babies b/c we made too much money and I knew better than to apply.

Lou said...

Where do I start? It's so sad, shameful, disgusting..the way your daughter, the father, and the other grandparents are acting. I hope you have taken measures so that none of them can step in and take Landon away. You hear of these things happening.

All I can say is saving Landon from the chaos that would have been his life is its own reward.

Fractalmom said...

you are doing well kid. did you know that having custody of landon, you can go apply for WIC and your income does not enter into it? they provide 4 cans of formula (big powder cans) a month. then, after a year, you get milk, peanut butter, baby cereal, eggs and juices. its worth checking into

Athena said...

Thanks all for the encouragement - Yes, Landon is safely in our custody... but the other grands have visitation. Landon is old enough now that each time we have to say "bye-bye" he looks concerned and each time he is returned there is an adjustment period - it is so unfair to *him*

Thanks Dawn - It's good to know. We're doing ok with the formula, etc... but it irks me that they have applied for these benefits (wrongly, I believe)and have been storing unused formula, and who knows what else - I'd just as soon have given it to a struggling young parent who is doing all of the right things... Alas

~Hugs~

Eli said...

Best wishes as you deal with all this. Landon is blessed to have you.

Leslie said...

Me too. I hate it too.

Hang in there.