Well - not much to tell, but here's an update...
I have seen my daughter twice - she got released from Dallas County shortly after my last post - we were out eating dinner and having a nice time and the phone rang - she was out, at a payphone - and supposedly couldn't reach anybody. It was one of the coldest nights of the year... I was about to go pick her up, but called the "others" first and they were already on their way to get her. Would have been very apropos if I had gone to get her and she was already on her way, with no one calling to tell me. Almost happened.
Anyway - I saw her the last two times we took Landon for exchange. She is very pregnant, looks ok. That's about all I know. I hugged her. She could care less, because, well, she's not in jail.
She is only there when we are dropping Landon off, never when we pick him up. She wrote and called me frequently from jail - nothing since she has been out, except that one cold night when she was covering her bases. Yeah, I know.
I did ask her and "boyfriend's" mother at points if she is still seeing the doctor she saw while in jail. Both said a hesitant yes. The "boyfriend's" mom last time told me no, then yes, but that they do NOT have a c-section date scheduled. They "don't know nothin'... Ok. Fine. Whatever. I have a feeling I may find out about the birth after the fact, and likely not from daughter or "boyfriend's" family. I have no idea where she is staying - supposedly with a "lady from church." IF that is true I can only imagine the whoppers that good Samaritan was told.
Really, honestly... I don't care. I am well aware we likely will not get a call unless someone needs us to do something that no one else thought of, prepared for or will do - and, honestly, in that case, we just might not be able to do it. In fact - I feel that they are very responsible via their enabling for where my daughter's life is now. Frankly, I'm not losing sleep over any of it.
Apparently everything is just fine, under control - good for them all. Maybe THIS TIME someone besides my husband and I have made plans for a newborn. Am I worried about the baby? Of course. But it's not a game, no conspiracy here - If they are getting some amusement or feel a victory that they are "hiding" something, they are playing it by themselves. Have a blast. You "win!" ... We simply aren't playing. If my daughter isn't using, and as long as "boyfriend" is still in jail she might actually stay clean; maybe the reality of caring for a newborn is exactly what she needs to wake-up. The "others" want to take care of her - feel free! Maybe then *they* will wake up. They just better understand they will be held accountable for keeping Landon, when he is in their care, and the new babe safe.
*I* know this:
I didn't Cause it
I can't Control it
I can't Cure it
Syd says it well, whether the addiction is heroin, alcohol or "boyfriends" here
And the serenity prayer.