Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Paradox Acknowledged

You may remember this post: Oh I Hope Not?

Apparently this is the case. My goodness, when it rains it pours... or it feels that way to me, in the current situation... Much of this has been going on over past few months, and I am only recently learning of it.

5 months pregnant and in jail again. Deja Vous. Chances are likely this child will be born in prison. I stand firm to the ideal that a child is born to responsible, drug-free, law-abiding parents. However, many wonderful people would not be here today is that was the reality. Do I love my daughter? Oh yes. Would I get her out of jail if I was financially able? No. Am I happy that my daughter is pregnant and in jail? No. Can I personally do anything about this current situation? No. Do I have a crystal ball? Obviously not.

Still processing the info - but I have to say again that I have the most beautiful and supportive husband. He doesn't process over-much - He faces life head on and helps me to do the same.

A new life deserves recognition and welcome - this child deserves all of the love and hopes and dreams and prayers that are typically bestowed upon an eagerly anticipated child, this is a firm belief, I have none other that contradict. I shall start making this child a baby blanket, as I did for it's brother.

The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.


Cindy said...

Thank you. Love this.

Mom of Opiate Addict said...

I love the Paradoxical Commandments and thanks for sharing it. I know this may not be helpful but I want to say congratulations to you on your soon to be grandchild. I know the circumstances are not ideal, but still celebration can be had. My thoughts go out to you and your daughter.

Chic Mama said...

Sorry I don't know what to say.....Take care of yourself. Thinking of you and your family.

Syd said...

Maybe she is in the best place. I hope that all will be well for her and the baby. Take care of yourself.

Madison said...

Sigh. Wow. Well, don't forget to take care of you. I hope all goes well. You never know what can be life-changing.

Annette said...

(((HUG))) A beautiful little human is on its way! We can only trust that God has a plan that we can't see just yet. Have faith my friend.

Brissa said...

Thank you for such inspiring posts. Stay strong, you are very admirable.

kel said...

Wow, Sending you hugs and prayers. Stay strong...

Her Big Sad said...

I love Annette's comment and second it! I think it's a beautiful and faith-filled response that you are starting a blanket for the new little one.

Prayers continue.... for all of you. Thanks for sharing this.

Lou said...

Oh dear..how overwhelming. What can I say except if it is true God does not give us more than we can handle, then God thinks you are one strong woman.

Cindy said...

I'm back. I wanted to commment some more when I had time. First of all, have said a prayer regarding this situation.
I too have an extremly common sense husband who "deals with life on life's terms". I adore him for that. I like to go off in to a la la world where everything is art and beauty. I'm convinced my husband is an angel from God to drag me in to reality whether I like it or not.

Cheri said...


I'm new to your blog, but not to your pain. Two of my sons ended up on drugs. It is a parents' nightmare.

I must say, however, that I have not had to experience the prison/pregnancy scenario. Our oldest son stayed away for years, and admitted to a girlfriend having aborted his baby during that time. He is now getting back on track with life, married to a nice gal, and they have three kids. Our second son went to rehab and is now doing well.

I want you to know that your family is in our prayers. We have a prayer/encouragement ministry, and I will add your family to our monthly prayer list.

Sending hugs and prayers your way,

Athena said...

Prayers welcome and appreciated. Thank you All

Mary (MPJ) said...

Oh, what a situation! You and your daughter and this new baby will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Debby of Oxycontin and Opiate Addiction: A Mother's Story said...

The only advantage of being home sick with a cold, is that I can read all of my blogger friends posts. I'm behind with you, I'm sorry. I'm sad to read the latest. Your strength and courage is so encouraging to me. I know this phrase can sound hollow, but from me it's sincere. I'm so sorry for the child to come, and for yours. The Paradoxical Commandments are beautiful. I'm saving that for my own reminders. Thank you for being so honest and raw and ... well, just thank you.